The fundamental premise of self-help is that something is wrong with you and the book, therapist, or life coach is going to fix it.

I think that’s garbage.

We read self-help books, listen to podcasts, hire coaches, and go to therapy, in an effort to change or fix all the things we think are wrong with our lives. It doesn’t have to be this way.

Context causes us to base our behavior on a set of predetermined assumptions. When my 7th-grade band director told me I’d make the all-state band one day, there was no sign that I possessed any musical talent. But, his words changed my behavior.